Ever made a New Year’s resolution or even a few goals only to find them dead in four weeks?
Maybe you told your family about them, but predictably life took over and you’re off the diet or quit writing your book?
The problem with goals is that most people fail to see the inherent issues and shortcuts to make goals really work.
Diatribes and conventional wisdom meets up with rapid technology and attention zaps everywhere. Result? Epic fails.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Generosity matters first
I made a promise to get my vision and three words together for the Brave New Year Course (affiliate link). I was taking it to help shape my goals around the promise of 2013. My focus wasn’t quite right.
Then a breakthrough!
Chris Brogan and I were emailing (which happens in his courses), and it dawned on me that powerful goals can only happen with support. But not just asking for help to cultivate them or deliver them, but giving something in return. Generosity matters!
First, when you are focused on creating something new, the only place you can come from is your own past experience. It takes another to jar you loose and ask you questions that shifts your perspective.
Also, because everyone already knows everything there is to know about goals from life experience. You’ve accomplished things you’ve wanted to do, and even if you’ve never said it, you know what works.
Here’s a few New Year’s gems I’ve collected to make your goals easier to achieve.
Templates are shortcuts
I’m a huge fan and advocate for Stan Bush’s 10 Minute Planner. It’s made a difference in my daily execution without the traditional to do list.
It’s beauty is that it’s simple, and focused. Plus it only takes 10 minutes each day to put it together or modify it. You can put it to work in 10 minutes after you’ve downloaded it.
Think S.M.A.R.T after inspiring
If you were to ask social marketing maven Lisa Larter about problematic approaches to goal setting, she’d tell you that most people over estimate what they can accomplish in a year and underestimate what they can accomplish in five years.
Another key issue you’ll face is the ever present corporate S.M.A.R.T. goals. This acronym stands for specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time bound. Do goals need to do these things? Sure do, but more on this in a moment.
But professional and personal coach, Anja Schuetz believes that goals should be inspiring if they are personal goals.
Are you motivated by your goals? This key question should be asked for each new goal you create. Passion is a strong motivator to stay competitive with your goals.
If the end result isn’t exciting to you, it won’t sustain itself when willpower is weak and the going gets tough.
Perfectionism kills, bravery rules
When I was combing over my vision and words, trying to get it right was stopping me. I was trying too hard for perfect, but nothing in life is perfect.
Humanity is messy, delicious and always a work in progress.
Anja says it best, “Saying yes before you’re ready” on your goals means we kill the perfectionist. Every time she did it, she says she’s grown in quantum leaps.
You need something bigger and braver to help you learn and evolve. Safe and perfect won’t get you there like brave and messy. Give yourself permission to declare before you know how to jump.
Not everything needs to be reinvented
Her parents were good at re-purposing, recycling and even breaking even on selling the used before buying the new. Conserving resources can help you win the race.
You can use this to keep what works about your life, and only set key goals for those areas that we really want to bring into existence.
Why? Because you will have to manage what you create. Use your energy wisely to payoff with high quality goals, and reuse those things that are less important.
Super Bonus Shortcut: Vision and 3 Focuses
The simple way to have effective personal goals is to create a personal vision and 3 focuses for the year. This means declaring your purpose and focus.
One of my words this year is Details. This reminds me to listen to people’s stories, ask interesting questions, learn neat things about them and share my adventures.
I can apply this to many parts of my life, from work interactions and classroom training to conversations with my friends and family. I can even use it to cultivate new relationships.
Want to get in on creating the best bonus shortcut to your goals and resolutions right now?
Sign up and join me in the Brave New Year course today. Chris Brogan explains how to create your vision and 3 words of focus, along with other powerful tools for an effective New Year.